How to Fix Marriage Problems Without Counseling

The following are simple things you can do to fix marriage problems without counseling:

Pray for your Spouse 

From the book of Genesis, we can see that Isaac pleaded with God on behalf of his wife Rebekah because she was barren and God granted her a child. (Genesis 25:21)

Therefore, pray for your wife/husband and ask God to help them with any problems they may be dealing with.

Act at the Right Time 

From the first book of Samuel we can see that when Abigail learned that something terrible was going to happen to her household because her husband Nabal had offended David, she set out immediately to resolve the conflict with David.

We can also see that her quick action saved her home because as she was riding her donkey, she met David and his 400 armed men coming to destroy all the men in her household. (1 Samuel 25:18-22)

Therefore in addition to praying for God to solve the marital problems, pray for the gift of discernment so that you can know the right thing to do to solve the problems.

Speak at the Right Time 

From the first book of Samuel we can see that when Abigail returned home after resolving the conflict on behalf her family, she found her husband Nabal partying and very drunk and so she did not tell him anything until the next morning when he was sober. (1 Samuel 25:36-37)

This was the wise thing to do because if Nabal’s sober words had incensed David so much that he was ready to destroy all the men in his household, there was no telling what he would have said or done in his drunken state to flame the ire that his wife had just quenched.

Therefore, pray for the gift of discernment so that you can know when to speak to your spouse and how to speak to them about the problems affecting your family.

Wait for God to Intervene 

From the book of Matthew we can see that when Mary had a problem with Joseph because he was thinking of ending their relationship, God sent an angel to Joseph who advised him to marry Mary. (Matthew 1:18-21) 

We can also see from the book of Genesis that Sarah encountered several problems when she decided to use her own interventions and give her female servant Hagar to her husband Abraham so that Hagar could bear children for her since she was barren. (Genesis 16:1-6)

Therefore, after you pray and do what you can to physically solve your marital problems, wait in faith for God to intervene and do for you what you cannot do for yourself to solve the problems in your marriage.

Read your Bible

Read your Bible every day because it is God's manual for both men and women and consequently the guidebook for our relationships.