Refuse To Be A Victim: Tamar is part of our Refuse To Be A Victim Series
Tamar experienced many bad things in her life (Genesis 38) but she refused to accept a victim mentality.
For example, her first husband Er was wicked and God killed him.
According to the custom of that time, if a man died without a child, his brother was to marry his wife and bear children to perpetuate his name.
Er's brother Onan therefore became her second husband but instead of helping her get children, he emitted to the ground. God did not like this act and killed him.
Her father-in-law Judah then sent her back to her father's house to remain a widow until his third son Shelah had matured enough to marry her though he had no intention of fulfilling his promise because he did not want him to die like his brothers.
Tamar inspite of being sent back to her fathers house as a childless widow of two husbands, refused to a victim mentality.
We know this from the fact that when she saw that Shelah had grown up and she had not been given to him as wife, she took matters in her own hands and ended up being the mother of twins called Perez and Zerah (Genesis 38:29-30) and being mentioned in the genealogy of Jesus (Matthew 1).
Tamar was therefore able to change herself from a victim of her circumstances (two time widow with no children sent back to her father's house) to a victor over her circumstances (mother of twins mentioned in the genealogy of Jesus).
Therefore regardless of the terrible blows that life has given you, refuse to accept a victim mentality and a victim's fate.
Take time to rest if you are hurting and then take the following steps:
1. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind (Romans 12:2)
Transform or change yourself from a victim to a victor by renewing your mind with the Word of God.
To do this go through your Bible and find Victor Scriptures that you can meditate on. Perfect examples include:
With God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26)
God is perfecting that which concerns me. (Psalm 138:8)
I am confident that He who has begun a good work in me will complete it. (Philippians 1:6)
I am confident that He who has begun a good work in me will complete it. (Philippians 1:6)
2. Discern what is the good, acceptable and perfect will of God (Romans 12:2)
After changing your mind from a victim's mind to a victor's mind, you now have to discern the good and perfect will of God for your situation.
Therefore pray and ask God to direct your steps so that you can do the things that will now change you physically from a victim of your circumstances to a victor of your circumstances.
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I'm not Tamar. Nor is it legal to do this sh*t to me. Go to heck.
ReplyDeleteI'm not Tamar. Nor is it legal to do this sh*t to me. Go to heck.
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