How to Heal Your Marriage

Jehovah Rapha means the Lord Who Heals. 

God introduced this aspect of Himself as a Healer to the Israelites when He was healing their bitter waters at Marah. 

The Israelites were on their way to the Promised Land when they found that the waters at Marah were too bitter to drink. Moses cried out to God and he was shown a tree that he threw into the waters and sweetened them. (Exodus 15:23-25)

It was after God had healed their bitter waters by showing Moses the cure, that He told them He could also heal their physical bodies for He said, "If you diligently listen to the voice of the Lord your God and do the right thing in His sight, listen to His commandments and keep all His statutes, I will put none of the diseases on you which I brought on the Egyptians because I am the Lord Who Heals you." (Exodus 15:26)

How to Heal the Bitter Waters of Marriage

Marriage has been likened to water because we are told, Drink water from your own cistern and running waters from your own well. 
Why should your fountains be dispersed abroad and your streams in the streets?
Let them be yours alone and not for you with strangers.

Let your fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of your youth.
As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her satisfy you at all times and always be ravished with her love.

For why should you be enraptured by an immoral woman and embraced by a seductress? The ways of a man are before the eyes of God. (Proverbs 5:15-21)

Therefore if you find yourself at Marah in your marriage because the waters are too bitter to drink do the following to heal your marriage:

Pray

Cry out to God and ask Him to show you the solution that you can use in your marriage to sweeten the waters.

For example, you can pray, Jehovah Rapha, I ask You in the name of Jesus to show me how I can solve this problem and sweeten the waters in my marriage. 

For optimum results, pray Scriptures that address the problem that you are dealing with in your marriage. For example, you can say the following prayers for the following problems in your marriage:
a. Financial problems 
Heavenly Father we ask you in the name of Jesus to open up a way for us to make money so that we can provide for the needs of our household. (1 Timothy 5:8) 

b. Intimacy problems
Heavenly Father we ask you in the name of Jesus to help us solve these intimacy problems so that we can be joined together and become one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)

c. In-law problems
Heavenly Father we ask you in the name of Jesus to help us solve these problems we have with our in-laws because it is written that a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined with his wife. (Ephesians 5:31) 
Combine your prayers to Jehovah Rapha with obeying His commandments and doing the right thing in His sight. Click here for more Bible prayers for your marriage.

Heal Yourself

Two emotionally unhealthy people cannot form a healthy union. 

Therefore to form a healthy marriage, you first have to heal yourself emotionally or consult a professional. Click on the link to read How to Heal Yourself Emotionally.

    

Study Your Spouse

Study your spouse to know what they really want. Sometimes people cannot or will not express the deepest desires of their heart but by studying them you can glean some insights about what they really want. To help you do this read How to Speak the Language of Love to Your Spouse.

Have Daily Talks

Ensure that you talk to your spouse each day to keep up with their day to day activities.

Every so often, make sure that you have an honest conversation with your spouse to find out:
3 things they would like you to do to improve your marriage 
3 things they would like you to stop doing to improve your marriage
Then commit yourself to doing/not doing these things.

Ensure that you also tell them:
3 things you would like them to do to improve your marriage 
3 things you would like them to stop doing to improve your marriage

Have Weekly Dates

Have a standing date with your spouse every week just like you have a standing date with God every Sunday in Church so that you can remain physically, emotionally and spiritually connected regardless of what you are going through. 

During your weekly couple dates you can engage in activities like:
1. Eating your favorite foods together
2. Listening and dancing to your favorite music
3. Reading books to each other
4. Engaging in hobbies you enjoy together
5. Giving each other massages. Click here to learn How to Make a Stress Management Massage Oil

Have Monthly Spouse Days

Set a specific date each month when each of you will go out of their way to please the other. For example, the Wife Day can be on the 10th and the Husband Day can be on the 20th of each month.

Since most "men are visual", as a wife try to please your husband by wearing the things he loves you to wear.
And, since most "women are audial", as a husband try to please your wife by saying the things she loves to hear.

However, for the best results, ask your spouse what they would like you to do for them on that day.